Happy March 2009

Happy March! Spring is almost here!

March 2, 2009

Hello to Each One of You,

“Sometimes even to live is an act of courage” Lucius Annaeus Seneca

It does take courage to be here. It takes courage to be in relationship and risk it all to be loved. We think we are risking that the other in the relationship may not love us at some point but alas it is our own love that is more elusive! We risk it all to know ourselves in relationship because as much as we think it is about the other person and what they do, it is really about us and our response versus reaction to who they were. No matter where we go there is no escaping the Self. No matter how we try to get away, numb out, escape; drugs, alcohol, tv, food, more relationships, work, there we are in it the whole time!

The amazing thing we get to experience by being present is how much of our present is being dictated by our past programming. Somewhere in the core of our being when we came into these bodies we experienced fear, pain, the illusion of lack; not enough love-attention and the ultimate illusion of separation. That somehow we are alone in our experience and/or separate from the One. The ego is born and magically saves us by creating survival tools that help us move forward and earn the love we need to survive. We will do anything for some of that which we need to continue on, our will to survive is that strong! Then suddenly we are grown and in these adult relationships which require new tools but we are still using the old ones based on the past. We re-create relationships that help us play out the original illusion that somehow we are not good enough, loveable enough, worthy enough etc. and we are again in pain and fear just like before. The past repeating itself. The old moans being moaned again!

How do we move past this? One powerful step is to stop blaming the other for our pain and looking within to see how we co-created these relationships. Who were we in the room? How did we attract this level of relationship? What were we attracted to? How did we expect to be loved in the relationship? How did we see ourselves showing up in that space? Did we want our love to be accepted? Maybe we wanted our love to alter someone else’s life? Save someone? Finally we felt like we would be loved in the space as it wasn’t like that in the past? What were the dynamics? The only way to be free and conscious is to look within. Our journey is about our own consciousness not the other person, (they have their own journey expanding).

One tool that is powerful is to identify and understand our buttons and where they came from. The greatest work I have done has been on my own buttons and I realized I had many all programmed early on in my life experience. My parenting partner helped me to know they existed just by showing up as himself! I am in gratitude that he showed up in my life to help me better understand myself. The work of understanding my buttons has helped me re-program them and I have found new freedom. In that new space the old behaviors of those around me have altered and don’t even show up anymore. Hence it was only there to help me become more aware. Once I was my energy altered, that in my consciousness altered as well.

We work together like dancers. Sometimes it may not seem as graceful as a dance and yet it is. There are movements and reactions to moves and then it builds together to create these elaborate performances which culminate into the dramas of our lives. We ruminate on them, hold onto the pain and discomfort of them and retell them. I have done this. I now know where it has led me which is away from the truth of myself and further into illusion. It is all perfectly choreographed and all we have to do is show up. There is magic and it will always teach us something more, about ourselves!. The goal is to remember to love. Precious little is said about the glory of the most loving!

I invite you to look within and discover your buttons to do the greater work of reprogramming them and finding your own freedom! Your joy is needed in this world and how you live affects those around you. How would you like to touch the world? The answer to that question will lead you to your deeper work and ultimately your joy!!

Breathing alters our being, even though we think other things do it better and faster breath raises our mental, physical and spiritual health by transforming the old negative patterns of the past into positive. We get to cleanse our bodies of negative emotions and illness when we breathe!

Come to breath classes every Monday and Friday evenings at 6:30 – 8:30 and find your joy and re-create your health, this is your birthright!
Your Light adds to the world!

“What a world of grace we live in after all” Rilke

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Sending love and light,
Karen