Quote of the Week

“Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, some day far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”

Rainer Maria Rilke

Loving Self

November 4, 2009

Hello To Each Of You,

" The answer is and always will be love"              anonymous

Healing work, no matter what type, always leads back to the first relationship and often we think of that powerful relationship with parents.  Actually the more important one is the one we have with Self.  In our western culture, we are very externally focused and it doesn't help to create a solid foundation of relating to and loving Self.  We often worry about others loving us much more.  We worry about being accepted by others and having enough, being enough and doing enough to earn that acceptance and love.  We often take it so seriously as to think we have a better chance of being loved and accepted if we are more acceptable physically, therefore physical enhancement has become enormously popular.  We often think we will be better esteemed if we have more money and more prestige.  And yet seeking and getting all these material and physical things have not made us any happier.  Why is that?

Even in the booming financial years when money was handed out like candy and mansions were purchased daily why was there not an increase in personal satisfaction and joy?  Why was there more stress and anxiety than any other time?

Every time I work with a client no matter what we begin with we always work our way to how we feel about ourselves at our core.  This core held belief about ourselves is at the center of creating every other experience in our lives.  Interestingly enough, whatever happened in our childhoods there was bound to be a moment, even in the most loving and peaceful of families, when our immediate needs were not met by someone else.  This doesn't necessarily mean our parents were doing a "bad" job or abusive (though abuse did/does exist as well) however we usually internalize that experience and make it about ourselves.   We can begin a tape that reads somehow we were not good enough or loved enough to be helped or loved in that moment.  This can lead to a core belief about ourselves that is not Truth yet we do begin to believe it just the same.  This pattern of thought then begins to be repeated and sends out a level of energy that attracts a level of experience that we co-create because it matches this core belief.

One woman in her seventies realized she had been in three abusive marriages and that the tapes she held about herself were given to her when she was a child.  She had abusive, alcoholic parents and back then abuse hardly gained attention.   She went on for years abusing herself with thoughts that she wasn't good enough or intelligent enough (though she had been valedictorian her high school years).  The overriding messages from her childhood overshadowed any of her successes.  She always held a job and supported her children and yet there was the big secret she held inside about her worth.  Today she is working on becoming conscious of her inner tapes and re-recording over them with Truth messages.  She is learning to have compassion for herself first as a little girl and then her parents.  She is learning to forgive herself and then her parents.  She is learning to do something positive and loving for herself everyday just because she exists and is now learning that's all it takes for her to be deserving.

Her energy and health is now changing.  The chronic pain in her hands and feet is lessoning and allowing her to be active.  Her energy level is rising and she is thinking of taking on volunteer jobs to help others.  She is realizing she is deserving and beginning a whole new relationship with herself.  This love for herself is healing her mind and her body.   The body can only be as healthy as our minds and our emotions.  She is working with EFT to release old negative emotions and breathing to calm the mind and allow her to gain power to redirect thoughts and energies in the direction she chooses!

We cannot let others love us more than we love ourselves, it is too uncomfortable.  Yet we continue in our culture to look for romantic relationship to make us feel better about ourselves, to fill ourselves and at the very least to feel less lonely.  We overlook the importance of that first relationship with Self to be the foundation for the relationship with another.

We can all do this work!  We can choose to create a healthy vibrant relationship with our Self and feel that love which cannot be filled by another!

"It may be that when we no longer know what to do, we have come to our real work, and that when we no longer know which way to go, we have come to our real journey."

~Wendell Berry


November 14th Second Saturday at Mira Costa College 8:30 a.m Education for women going through divorce.  The program was created by Ginita Wall CPA 20 years ago and there will be an attorney, CPA and mediator speaking.  I will be speaking on the psychological, emotional and spiritual healing of going through this process.  If you know anyone going through divorce this is a good venue for information of the process involved.   It begins at 8:30 am cost is $45 and payable at the door, class goes until 1:30 pm

Monday, Wednesday and Friday Breath Classes held at 6:30 pm to 8:30 pm.  Cost is $35  Value priceless for our health and well being!!
What does Breath Work Do?  Opens and clears restricted breathing patterns producing:  more energy, increased detoxification, better health, improved respiratory capacity, a strengthened immune system and more balance.
Clears the subconscious mind which allows us to:  resolve stress, permanently clear repressed emotions such as: anger, fear, anxiety, guilt and depression.  Removes old mental tapes and programs of limitation and lack, which creates more peace, creativity and clarity.  It releases past traumas located in the cellular memory.  Allows easier access to higher dimensions and levels of consciousness which gives us stronger connection to Higher Self, fuller expression of  Spiritual gifts, deeper meditation, opening to the mystical and awareness of unity consciousness
The creator of breath work Judith Kravitz healed herself from throat cancer with this healing modality!  Our body needs the breath to support the link between body and soul.  This is the link to our health and well being yet one we little utilize when the under oxygenated brain takes over and creates stress and anxiety.  Come to breath and allow your body the peace it needs to support health!

Sending love and light,

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